Noticed some changes?
You might have noticed some changes in a family member or friend. They might be:
- generally showing more interest in gambling
- talking about gambling more often
- actually gambling more often
You might be concerned that this behaviour could develop into a gambling problem, or be worried that something else is wrong. Don't panic - this behaviour doesn't necessarily mean that a serious problem is about to develop and the gambling may not be causing any harm. In fact it’s likely that your family member or friend will move away from this level of gambling after a time.
Often the person who is gambling will not have even noticed that things have changed.
Even if they are aware, it's unlikely that they will see their gambling as a problem.
At this stage you can help by gently bringing their increased involvement to their attention and by offering to talk about the gambling or anything else that's going on in their life.
Things to keep in mind when you have this discussion:
- Don't tell them that you think they have a problem or be confrontational or accusing.They might respond defensively and shut down the conversation.
- Instead, talk gently about what you have noticed and your reason for feeling concerned. Help them to review their gambling and check for consequences.
- Ask them about how life is for them at the moment. Are they feeling well? Are they down or stressed? Are they coping with any other life problems at the moment?
- Remember that it can be hard for people to talk about problems, so go easy. Let them know that you are open to talking some other time. Ask if it's OK for you to bring the subject up again in the future.
- On a practical note, make some plans to spend time together doing things besides gambling.
Keep in mind that while you may disagree with their choice of gambling as a recreational activity, or at least with their level of participation, it might actually be problem-free.
