You cannot change the gambler's behaviour - they have to be willing to change themselves.

As a person without a problem you can't understand why the person with the gambling problem doesn't just stop. They seem like a run-away train. You might try many ways to stop them but you just can't control the person's behaviour.

You need to focus away from their behaviour and deal with your own feelings. This will help you to see the gambler as a person in crisis and out of control. This will then allow you to be supportive and to understand their feelings, and yet not apply pressure about their behaviour.

Does someone you care about have an issue with gambling?

You cannot force someone to acknowledge that they have an issue with gambling but you can encourage them to seek professional help. If you're not sure how to approach the situation, a counsellor can help point you in the right direction.

Gambler's Help also help people who are concerned about someone else's gambling.

 

How do you know if someone close to you has an issue with gambling?

People gamble for many reasons - for excitement, the thrill of winning or to be social. Gambling becomes an issue when it causes harm to the gambler and those close to them. Usually this means they are spending more money or time on gambling than they can afford.

Signs that gambling has become and issue »

Does one of your parents have an issue with gambling?

You can get help for your family. Gambler's Help is not just for gamblers. Free, confidential, professional counselling is available for families where gambling has become an issue.

Find out how you can get help now »

 

Counsellors and support for family and friends

FREECALL 24 hours, 7 days a week 1800 858 858, or go to www.gamblinghelponline.org.au for advice, support and help.

Calls to the Gambler’s Help line, and online counselling are free. You also can call or logon for help and support outside the area where you live.
For the hearing impaired FREECALL 1800 777 706.

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